Episode #34 Don't Make Assumptions

Episode 34: Don’t Make Assumptions

Mind Reading - and NLP term that simply says how we “read someone’s mind” about what they are going to do or how they are going to respond.

It’s easier said than done…

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• Making assumptions of why, what he is thinking, and what he is going to do when she approaches him.

This person felt:

Business example:  Email that was sent out and there was no response:

Assumptions:

• You don’t like what I said
• You don’t want to participate
• You’re being selfish by not responding

She felt?  helpless...

Waiting at an airport for a flight to go home… and you see someone in the distance that you recognize… and for a moment, you think they saw you, yet they turn around and walk away.

Assumptions:

• They ignored you.
• They don’t like you enough to engage

You FELT:  alone, unliked, questioning did something happen… 

We are wired to make assumptions:

Steps:  

Be Mindful and Present:  Getting back to being curious and questioning your own thought process.

Because “what if” that’s not the case…

Another example:  Jennifer

Action Steps:

 

• Rather than making assumptions, GET CURIOUS
  • Take a Breath - pause
• Question your thought process
  • what other things could be possible here?
  • Has he/she ever done something to intentionally hurt or harm you?

• Underlying Belief: Your partner wants to help you and/or protect you.
• Address the situation
• HOW
  • Pre-frame:  Because Frame… linking to wanting the best.

 

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