Making relationships EASY… or as Easy as possible.  

People get caught up in “moments” when ppl act a certain way: Maybe they are dismissive, or distant...non-responsive.

Often times we IMMEDIATELY think… it’s US or “They are such a jerk.”

  • We are all human
  • We are all going through something

Two of the FOUR AGREEMENTS: (Don Miguel Ruiz)

  • Don’t Take Anything Personally
  • Don’t Make Assumptions.

 

Don’t Take Anything Personally - Easier said than done.

    • It’s a skill that you practice
    • Life long practice
    • “Everyone’s going thru their own stuff!
    • Nothing others’ do is because of YOU.
      • When someone short or dismissive, it’s not about you. It’s their own character defects

 

  • What others’ say and do is a Projection of their own reality. 
    • Friend in WA
    • Jennifer’s See Agency Webinar
    • Other’s opinions come from their own reality
  • When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering
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    • How you dress
    • This happens when you practice one and two.

 

Action Steps:

  1. Think VR Video Game: When you see picture of others in your mind, see them playing a different VR game than you are.
  2. Think & RESPOND… versus REACT. (It’s a skill you develop)
  3. Adopt the philosophy: You’re not responsible for how others feel or what they do. 
    1. Book - It’s none of my business what you think about me.
  4. Be Curious vs Reacting:  Hmm… why are they acting that way.
    1. Question: “Is there something going on”
  5. Be Proactive:  Think right now… where have I, or where do I get triggered by someone… 
    1. Next time this happens, I’m going to get curious verses jumping into your old pattern.
  6. Work on Forgiving Yourself First

 

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